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Being a white woman, I have never personally been through any of this. I m sorry that you feel so disrespected by anybody, not to mention an entire race of people. I m going to say a cliche answer, however. It really depends on the man. My best friend is black, and he has said on multiple occasions he would never date a girl that wasn t black. He isn t attracted to any other race. He s respectful to everyone, and holds whoever he is dating on a pedestal. One day you will find a man that respects you the same, because he loves you for you, unconditionally.

Misogynoir is a term mostly used by Black feminists to reference the particular anti-Blackness that exists where race and gender intersect for Black women. Misogynoir is not limited to Black men as perpetrators solely, but the term gives a basis for specifically contextualizing the discrimination and mistreatment Black women face in this country.

That anti-Blackness is a part of the fabric of United States culture is a given for the historical and present context of race as a social construct, in the country. And specifically, anti-Blackness womanhood is an often overlooked concept that is always and already present, culturally. The English language as we know it makes it difficult to talk about two constructs at once, I think. Nonetheless, language reflects culture and culture reflects language; and the language is getting better. The emergence of intersectionality allows us to discuss multiple identities at once.

Many a Black women in this country, myself included, have come across Black men who had nothing but a degrading perception of Black women. As an African who moved here perhaps more than any form of prejudice I have witnessed and analyzed, it is probably the one that has left me most troubled. Black African men are a lot of things, and they do not get a pass in how sexist and misogynistic they can be. But I can honestly say that the type of misogynoir received by Black women at the hands of Black men is uniquely American. And it is deeply troubling.

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “ We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity.᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

Of the messages that did make it to my inbox, many were from men who were not a good match for me. My filter settings are pretty generous—if you have a.

Many black Africans also act the same. Maybe lack of self-confidence?

I ’ve never been one for casual relationships. Following a romance in my early twenties with an older man who, I eventually accepted, was simply at a different stage of life, I went through a series of short relationships of varying significance. I met lovely men—many of whom remain my friends—but by my mid-thirties, I still hadn’t met anyone with whom I felt that same degree of connection and passion I had known with my first love. I was searching for a committed relationship with a supportive partner, someone I could love deeply and who shared my values and goals.

A message from a prospective mate every day may sound like a lot. But given the extremely low probability that any given message will lead to a serious relationship, it’s not. Even when you decide to answer, many users will not respond, having lost interest or been tempted by one of the site’s many other profiles. Some people disappear after a few exchanges—sometimes even after you’ve made plans to meet. You may also start talking to someone only to realize that you are no longer interested in getting to know them better. It can take many exchanges to get to a real live date.

Some of my friends pegged my situation to an intimidation factor. I’m a lawyer working toward a PhD in management, and I am a serious athlete, competing internationally for Canada in Ultimate Frisbee. I’m also a musician (some of my work is available on iTunes); a dancer; and a volunteer with various sports organizations. At first glance, my resumé and accomplishments may loom large, but I had thought that my well-roundedness would be an asset, or at least of interest, to the sort of man I was seeking.

Well, if I was a black girl, I wouldn't want to date a black guy either. I can't blame you for trying to come over to the side of light. At least your white boy friend will have and keep a job. Some black guys are as useless as t*ts on a boar pig. ps- white guys are better lovers despite what the black guys will tell the world about themselves.

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It’s a legitimate question in this real world yet I often feel so sad that it even has to be asked. But perhaps what is worse is that sometimes even when I have not voiced out the question myself, I have wondered that about other people too. And while I have always been open and honest about not giving a rat’s ass about what race or color someone is that I am entering any sort of interaction with, and especially a romantic one, that doesn’t mean I have been immune to a lot of the perceptions and perspectives of what people will have to say, were that person to be a different color from me.

I know I’ve gone in circles in this piece but in 2014 interracial relationships are a fact. They’re not going anywhere; they are a reality. And one I hope becomes less and less of a topic that we need to discuss because it really should not be. Everyone is mixing and mingling and there’s a part of me that’s really happy about it. Because as people get more colors in their “own blood” and among their loved ones, I have the hope that my Utopia where we see people clearer, and as more than just their race, especially in matters of the heart, is at least an inch closer.

The famous Bill Crosby once said, “It isn’t a matter of black is beautiful, as much as it is that… white is not all that’s beautiful.” I hope that his words speak to your hurting heart of acceptance. My goal in this life is not to redefine beauty, but to change what it’s built on. My blog series, is in hopes that we can all see that our black, white, yellow, green, pink, orange, and every color in between has beauty of its own.