Wow, you just illustrated so well the kind of folks I hang out w. I would not agree that girls mostly like the strong, outgoing aggressive guys. It s just easier to get to know them than it is the quiet, reserved guys. I know myself, after having crushes on introverted ppl. Often the intellectually active, reserved guys are not very experienced or "slick" with the ladies. But I think girls should be cautious w/ "ladies men" anyway. W/ the introvert guy, the girl usually admires secretly, and doesn t know how to approach. If anything is to happen, it is often her that has to initiate it, if she is determined enough. But if she too is an introvert, it s almost a hopeless case; unless circumstances force them to talk, i.e. crash into each other, dropping books, breaking a watch/glasses or something. LOL For what it s worth, I have heard and known many girls speak of being attracted to the more intelligent, shyer guys. Actually I too find them very cute. It is attractive when someone invests themselves in something and uses their brain. Whenever someone is knowledgeable, most can t help but respect him/her. However, these guys are sometimes difficult when it comes to dating. You mentioned not being socially awkward, but maybe you have not put enough effort to meet ppl? I dunno the situation, but that seems to be the case with several of my friends. They are interesting, attractive girls who are willing to communicate. But they too, are more inclined to the introvert category. Similarly, they find interest in intellectually engaging" topics, and are very cool ppl. Most of them are in their 20s and also haven t dated more than 1-2 ppl However, one friend in particular began putting herself out more, mostly because she felt it necessary for her career choice. In her political class last year, she started participating actively in class discussions, she became open about her thoughts, stated her viewpoints, and unleashed that intellectual mind. Shortly she met a guy in the class who had similar views, and they were naturally drawn to each other because of similar interests. They soon began meeting outside of class, continuing their lengthy conversations. My point is that if you put yourself out there often enough, soon or later, you will naturally find someone and discover mutual attraction. There are definitely like-minded ppl out there, but you ll never meet if you aint out there. Like I said, intellectual, mature and stable guys are rare jewels. It takes quite a deal of effort for an introvert to acquire "extrovert" qualities, and I don t know exactly how you mingle w/ ppl. But from what I know, once you put yourself out there, you will begin forming significant relationships with people who will appreciate you and naturally be drawn to get to know you better. Ppl w. intrigue, quality of character and mind are super attractive! I hope that helped some. And plz don t withdraw! There may be wonderful doors to be opened in your life. Best of luck!