Topics: Is this a red flag??

You’ve probably had a friend who started dating a woman that really made you scratch your head. She was flaky, possessive, and high-drama. Everyone could see that the gal was toxic and really bringing your buddy down everyone, that is, except your buddy.

What gives? How do people end up in unhealthy relationships despite warning signs that their partner was bad news to begin with?

Using MRI machines, researchers at the University College London found that “feelings of love lead to a suppression of activity in the areas of the brain controlling critical thought. It seems that once we get close to a person, the brain decides the need to assess their character and personality is reduced.”

Everyone goes through periods when they’re not feeling sexually amped. That might be related to a number of factors: Stress at work, a lapse in confidence, a hormonal shift, depression, or just plain exhaustion. But the sobering truth might be that she’s not just not picking up what you’ve been laying down lately. Do some careful probing and rule out those other reasons, then concentrate on changing up your game—perhaps by mastering the 25 tips that will turn you into a sex god overnight.

Although she might not want to discuss your performance to protect your feelings, she might end up critiquing other things about you as a proxy. Perhaps she’ll remark on your appearance, how you act, or whether you’re doing your share of household activities properly. Those little things annoying her about you wouldn’t seem so bad if you stepped back, took control of the situation, and start giving your best regularly.

When a woman knows what she wants and what she likes in the bedroom, it’s a very, very good thing. However, if she starts to micromanage your moves, it could be a sign that you’re not listening to her or her body and she’s not feeling satisfied. A bit of guidance is great, but if it’s starting to feel like she’s constantly teaching you how to have sex with her from scratch, you’re probably bombing in the sack. Though if you find yourself in the reverse position, so to speak, (i.e., you find yourself less than satisfied), learn how to turn your wife into a sex goddess.

I wouldn t have any problem dating someone in their thirties (if I wasn t married that is) without kids or ex marriages. However, I would expect him to have some sort of proof that he hasn t been sitting on a couch all his adult life or partying night and day. A good career, and well maintained physique is proof enough for me that he hasn t been lazy. I would actually look at it as a plus that you don t have that baggage. Having to deal with step children would just add stress to a new relationship.

I would say stay faaaaar away. And especially having a relationship with this guy he is going to have unrealistic expectations of women s bodies in general and sex especially! ANd he will also be really into sex like REALLY into it or he will never ever ever think about it because He s so used to seeing whatever he wants with the prettiest girls with huge asses and whatever fetishes he may have. And as a girl it s hard to live in porn stars shadows lol! Stayyyy away girl

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You’ve probably had a friend who started dating a woman that really made you scratch your head. She was flaky, possessive, and high-drama. Everyone could see that the gal was toxic and really bringing your buddy down everyone, that is, except your buddy.

What gives? How do people end up in unhealthy relationships despite warning signs that their partner was bad news to begin with?

Using MRI machines, researchers at the University College London found that “feelings of love lead to a suppression of activity in the areas of the brain controlling critical thought. It seems that once we get close to a person, the brain decides the need to assess their character and personality is reduced.”

24 years old -- you are not old enough to have had a long term relationship really. A teenage one does not count. also depends on what you mean by long term. Some people think long term is 6-8 months. Long term to me is at least 2 years. I m 50 years old and single. Most men my age have been married by now. If they have not, THAT is a red flag for me. I know.double standard here -- because I am not married either. But that s how I am. When I was 30 I met a guy and we lived together for 7 years. That was long term. the bottom line is if you are over 30 and never held a relationship for more than a year or two, it usually means you can t commit. There are prejudices though to just going by that. Perhaps the man was ready to commit but the woman wasn t. See?

“I will change my mind in a minute” were the exact words a guy I was in the process of getting to know said to me. While he wasn’t talking about anything directly related to me, I should have taken heed. Basically, he was indecisive and inconsistent, and as luck would have it, he was the same way with his feelings. This would soon became a turn-off and something I should have immediately considered a red flag.

See, when women think of red flags, most times we’re looking for signs of baby mama drama, financial instability, or flirtatious ways in a man. We’re looking for clues that let us know that he’s a cheater or untrustworthy, but many times, we overlook those subtle hints of emotional instability that will almost always leave us with a broken heart–or at least some worked nerves. Nowadays, if a man tells me he often changes his mind and is indecisive, I take that as my queue to run for the hills.

Unfortunately, this wasn’t always the case. I wasn’t as knowledgeable as I was when I first met Mr. Wishy-Washy. He seemed like a good catch, but slowly I started to notice his indecisiveness in small things. For instance, he would want to eat at a certain restaurant and then change his mind after we got there. Seriously, what grown man does this so frequently?

Now that Hurricane Irene has officially ushered in cuffing season (that time of the year when everyone is booed up) you may find yourself going out on a few extra dates because everyone is looking for the next best thing they will never marry. Now common sense tells us that a not so hot first date is a telltale sign that you need not bark up said tree. But let’s be real, “Common sense ain’t common.”

So ladies, let’s look at a few first date red flags that should cancel out some would-be suitors, no matter how picky your girls think you’re being. 

Going Dutch is not (and should not be) considered a red flag! It could mean that the man has modern ideas about gender equality and does not live by traditional gender stereotypes. Dutch dates are most common in European countries which have the most egalitarian societies; it’s a forward thinking modern idea and not something to be scoffed at.

According to Roy Cohen, career coach and author of The Wall Street Professional’s Survival Guide , a key way to tell that you’re in them wrong job is that “You dread Sunday nights and the end of the weekend, in large part, because you do not look forward to Monday mornings and the return to work.”

If your weekend’s barely begun and you are already feeling anxious or frustrated that Monday morning is approaching, it’s a good sign that you are not in the right job. Also, be sure to check out these cold open business emails before networking for a new job.

That dreading of work might lead you to actually skip work or take personal days off more often than you used to. Sometimes these might be for legitimate reasons, but more likely, they’re excuses to get out of having to come in to the office. “You may call in sick when you are not or you just disappear during the day,” says Cohen. “When you don’t like your job you find ways to avoid having to do it.” Now, if you’re officially on the hunt, you need to spruce up your online profile, and here’s how to  choose the perfect LinkedIn profile picture.